Please read this carefully and respect and abide by the entire Code
In order to promote an orderly and safe recovery environment while allowing for the support of family and loved ones, dress and conduct code guidelines have been established.
Please show consideration to the men in the program who do not have any family support.
Bring only your valid photo I.D. to the front gate security. Handbags will be locked in a locker at the front gate security or it is highly recommended that you lock all valuables in the trunk of your car. You will walk through a very sensitive metal detector.
Female visitors are expected to pay close attention to personal cleanliness and to dress and conduct themselves appropriately while on the premises. This means that a visitor’s dress, grooming, and general appearance and conduct will be appropriate and neither disruptive nor interfere with the spiritual and recovery process of ALL our men.
Open Door Mission’s administrators/staff will make the final determination, should there be a question, as to the appropriateness of a visitor’s attire and/or conduct. The same applies to any public display of affection on the Mission property. PDA is not permitted.
Your loved one may request that you wear his favorite outfit for all the right reasons, but if it is for the wrong reason and questionable in your opinion, please do not wear it and explain to him why. We attempt to show men how to properly act with the females in his life. And always consider the other men who will see you. He should also think about that. Men other than your loved one, who may be seen by him ogling you, can make for a very bad scene.
Attire and conduct that is or may be considered disruptive, distracting, suggestive, revealing, or in any way interferes with our residents’ spirituality and recovery will not be tolerated.
Tops for women
- Necklines are to be modest, not revealing, and not allow exposed cleavage.
- Clothing must cover the mid-section and the back at all times whether standing and/or sitting.
The following tops are inappropriate:
- Tops with large arm holes that expose undergarments, such as tank tops, basketball jerseys, muscle shirts, mesh shirts, athletic undershirts, and cut out shirts.
- Tops that reveal lingerie or where the width of the strap is less than three inches.
- Strapless tops, one strap tops, spaghetti strap tops.
- Belly shirts.
Pants, Shorts, Skirts, Dresses, and Footwear
- Pants, shorts, skirts and dresses must come within 3 inches of the top of the knee when standing. Do not wear modesty or volleyball shorts or yoga or other skin tight pants or shorts.
- Slits, splits, cuts, and holes in clothing should not exceed 3 inches above the top of the knee.
- Attire should be appropriate, clean and non-disruptive.
The following items are inappropriate:
- Slippers and sleepwear
- Flip flops, sandals, open toe shoes
- Sheer or transparent clothing
- Clothing or jewelry that may be offensive, vulgar, profane, lewd, or racially or sexually suggestive to another person
- Clothing or accessories that advertise, glorify or symbolize any illegal substance, alcohol, or tobacco
- Clothing or accessories with gang insignia or symbols
- Exposed undergarments
- Oversized clothing including anything that may be sagging
Other Important Issues
- Tobacco of any kind is not allowed on the ODM campus. No lighters or matches either.
- Our residents are served 3 nutritious hot meals per day and do not have need for anything. Do not bring any food of any kind for consumption on campus. Food is not permitted outside of the dining hall or in the dormitories for health purposes.
- As this is a substance abuse recovery facility, no drugs or alcohol are ever permitted on the campus.
- No cellphones are to be in the possession of your loved one except when you are with him.
- No pornographic materials are allowed. Dormitory and wardrobe inspections are performed at random and on a regular basis.
Please think about where you are visiting and who will be seeing YOU. Show modesty and conduct yourself in a manner that would make your grandmother proud of you. This Dress and Conduct Code Guideline has been well thought out. Avoid embarrassing yourself or your loved one by heeding to these guidelines. If you think what you are going to wear might be inappropriate, it probably is. So wear something that you know will be appropriate. The same applies with how you conduct yourself and how you allow your loved one to conduct himself with you. Being asked to leave the campus for failure to respect these guidelines MAY result in your inability to return and could jeopardize your loved one’s ability to complete the program.
Visitation and passes do not occur at Open Door Mission. Exceptions are rare and the approval is only made by the student’s counselors or by the court. Holiday exceptions are Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day dinners, and monthly family classes.
“Before, this, I was alone…so I looked to drugs to have fun. I needed a group like Celebrate Recovery where I could talk about my problems with people who have been through the same things.”
“I dug in. I didn’t try to change the program to fit me…I changed to fit the program.”
One morning, Mark woke up…and couldn’t get out of bed. The hospital saved his life, but without being able to work, he soon became homeless. Thank God someone in the hospital told him about the Mission’s Convalescent Care Center.